Your relationship
A wish to share enjoyment widely meets a wish to give close personal attention. Different expressions of affection need not mean a difference in its depth.
As romantic partners
Asking what expression feels good publicly and what feels good in private can keep the size of a reaction from becoming a score for depth of feeling.
As friends
Leaving quiet conversation after a gathering can let you take turns between entertaining everyone and listening deeply to one person.
As colleagues
Discussing what to present separately from the finer expression can connect broad communication with care for how it is received.
What each of you brings
Bing (丙) (Sun): The Sun casting light all around. A key theme is Brightness・Passion・Fairness・Expressiveness.
Ding (丁) (A small light): A small light illuminating the dark. A key theme is Insight・Depth of feeling・Concentration・Inner enthusiasm.