Your relationship
An ability to understand feelings may resonate with a wish to care. When both want to help, consideration can make it hard to say that rest is wanted.
As romantic partners
Taking turns naming help you want and a wish to rest today can let both of you choose time to receive care as well as give it.
As friends
Before adding helpful tasks, leaving time simply to talk can keep consideration from turning only into more preparation.
As colleagues
Making the amount of preparation visible before assigning roles can share out steps that the person noticing them might otherwise quietly accept.
What each of you brings
Ding (丁) (A small light): A small light illuminating the dark. A key theme is Insight・Depth of feeling・Concentration・Inner enthusiasm.
Ji (己) (Cultivated soil): Field soil nurturing life. A key theme is The capacity to nurture・Thoughtfulness・Practical capability・Versatility.